Fill the void inside – be connected to yourself.

Often times, people complain that they don’t feel like themselves anymore. They do a hundred things but nothing fills the void inside. It just doesn’t feel right.

Have you ever felt this way?

It feels like you are missing something very important but when you do a check you seem to be doing good if not great. You may have everything you need – in all aspects – health, job, social status, family etc.

This missing feeling of the unknown thing makes you do a bunch of things, join groups, courses, put extra effort in everything – set bigger goals and push your limits, only to end up in frustration. Sometimes, leading to a lonely feeling and eventually driven into depression.

This is what happened to a woman in her 30s – you may read about it in her letter here

‘I’m Broke and Mostly Friendless, and I’ve Wasted My Whole Life’

You think life shouldn’t be this stressful and there must be something to be done. Then you are right. And, it’s quite simple once you know.

The following video focuses on the most basic element of your life which is “yourself”.

Please watch it to the end and let me know if it helps. For a better clarity and avoiding distractions, I recommend using a headphone / earphone set if you have access to.

Share with your loved ones and those who seem to be stressed often. Those who you think might benefit from the advice shared in the video.

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What’s the greatest gift you can give your family?

Having a happy family is what almost everyone desires. And, everyone can have one.Your family could be your greatest strength or if neglected could turn to your worst weakness. But still, family is the first to be there to help you and stand by you when you are in need.

In our race to achieve goals – either personal or professional, we miss to pay attention to a few fundamental aspects of life. One of them is How we interact with our family members.

In the video below, I talk about “How sometime we fail to recognize what’s important for our family an dhow this leads to building up of stress and dysfunction in a family.

I also discuss “How a lot of problems in family can be solved with genuine communication and support”. Suggestions are intended to help resolve to create a stress free environment for a family where everyone feels recognized and supported.

#happyfamily #stress #payattention

A relationship with a nice person

I recently came across a quote saying

A relationship with a nice person like a sugarcane. You break it, crush it, squeeze it. Even beat or grind it; still, you will only get sweetness”.

So, this moved me.

I thought I would go in detail on this quote and discuss whether it makes sense or absurd.

Watch a small slideshow I made for this here:

When the depression is killing you

If you can’t live with yourself anymore then let your “self” go.

Killing your “self” is not a suicide. But, killing your body is.

When water in a pot becomes dirty would you throw away the pot?

End the self and enjoy the body.

Clear the mind, cleanse the body and enjoy life once again.

Work-life balance: Quantum vs Quality of time

Everyone knows that work-life balance is important to be happy. It’s one of the criteria people look for when finding a new job or switching companies (unless one is desperate for a job).

A lot of companies adjust their policies to help in achieving a good balance between work and personal lives of their employees. Because, research and surveys say that employees’ efficiency greatly increases when they hit this magic balance.

Some of the corporate companies even pay their employees an extra allowance to help them in this regard.  But, we still see a lot of folks complaining about stress and broken work-life balance.

why is it so difficult to achieve work-life balance when everyone understands it’s importance?

Answer is simple: We can’t achieve it because there’s absolutely no such thing as work-life balance. It’s just a marketing concept created by some PR firm or  a research firm.

It comes from the concept that work-life and personal-life are two separate pieces of a cake. This gives rise to the idea that with a little effort and adjustment the pieces can be balanced. People keep making efforts towards cutting the perfect pieces so as to balance them and fail.

We fail because we forget that they can’t be two separate pieces – they are always connected to each other. We are the medium of connection – as we have only one brain or one mind.

We are living beings not machines. We can’t forget work the minute we step out of office and behave like it has forget personal issues the moment we start working.

Unlike a machine we have a heart too. ( Assuming we are yet far from creating a machine with a mind/heart that works exactly like any living being).

Does a machine grieve when a neighboring machine stops working?  Does a machine care about what other machines say or what the customers say?

A machine can be turned on at anytime and get the same quality and quantity of output if given same amount of time. But, Can humans do that?

Then, why do we focus only on the amount of time when discussing work-life balance?

Most of us forget a basic yet important aspect of this balance – Quality.

People just focus on the quantity, the amount of time spent working vs life outside work. But, totally ignore the quality of time spent on both sides.

Doesn’t it actually make more sense to focus on quality first rather than quantity?

The illusion of knowledge – An enemy or an obstacle?

“The greatest obstacle to discovery is not ignorance—it is the illusion of knowledge.”

Daniel J. Boorstin

“The greatest enemy of knowledge is not ignorance, it is the illusion of knowledge”

— Stephen Hawking

http://www.zenthinking.net/blog/the-illusion-of-knowledge

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Keep moving forward, let nature guide you

Keep moving forward in life without fear, knowing that the journey is as important and sacred as life itself.  In your journey, wherever you are headed, realize that in this creation there exists an inseparable bond between the man and the soil (the earth).

Look beyond the obvious. Don’t neglect nature by thinking that what lies under those quivering steps of yours is just a handful of soil. You may reach skies, build skyscraper, live in high rise buildings but remember that you are still standing on the same soil and you are just a grain compared to the vastness of the earth.

Even great dictators fell and have become one with the soil. How strong can common folks like us be? Those who thought they are greater than nature and the earth. Ruling great kingdoms, yielding the greatest of powers, where are those dictators now? Realize that we are mortals, are time bound and one day we will be united with this soil.

Mother nature presides over the world as a great energy connecting everything that exists. From nothingness life forms evolved under the guidance and support of nature around us. Over millions of years, we evolved from instinctive to intellectual beings. If you think (human) intellect is infinite and unprecedented then you must realize the power of nature, one who has brought this intellect into existence.

This is an excerpt from a poem by a great Telugu language poet (Pen name: Ande Sri). The whole poem is enlightening and a condensed knowledge of the world.

It’s also beautifully woven both lyrically and musically.  But, it’s a lengthy one. So, I’ll post it in short pieces.

One interesting fact about Mr. Ande Sri, is that he is not a writer because he can’t write and has no formal education. He is one called as  an Äashu Kavi”meaning a speaking poet. A literary art form where the poet instantaneously (or preconceived) sings a poem in front of an audience.

I’ve given a YouTube link to his rendition of the poem.

I’ve tried (not my best) to transliterate and provide meaning of a couple of stanzas from the poem that connects every human to nature and urges everyone to realize and respect nature.

పావనమైనదీ జీవన యానం,
paavanmainadi jeevana yaanam
[sacred is the life's journey]
పడనీ అడుగులు ఎటురా పయనం.
padanee adugulu eturaa payanam.
[keep moving your feet wherever you are headed]

Meaning: 

Keep moving forward in life without fear, knowing that the journey is as important and sacred as life itself.

మట్టికి మనిషికి సృష్టిలోన, 
mattiki manishiki srushtilona,
[soil and man in this creation] 
విడిపోనీ చుట్టరికమున్నది కనుమది. 
vidiponi chuttarikamunnadi kanumadi. 
[inseparable bond exists realize this]

Meaning:

In your journey, wherever you are headed, realize that in this creation there exists an inseparable bond between the man and the soil (the earth).

తడబడు అడుగుల కింద ఉన్నదీ,
tadabadu adugula kinda unnadi 
[trembling / quivering steps lying under is] 
పిడికెడు మట్టే అనుకోకు. 
pidikedu matti anukoku. 
[(just) a handful of soil, don't think so] 
ఆ మట్టిపైన ఎంతెత్తులకెదిగినా, 
aa mattipina enthetthulakadiginaa 
[on that soil however high you may climb/grow] 
నీవే పిడికెడని మరచిపోకు. 
neeve pidikedani marachipoku. 
[you are (just) a handful, don't forget (this)]

Meaning:

Look beyond the obvious. Don’t neglect nature by thinking that what lies under those quivering steps of yours is just a handful of soil. You may reach skies, build skyscraper, live in high rise buildings but remember that you are still standing on the same soil and you are just a grain compared to the vastness of the earth.

మహానియంతలు మట్టిలో కలిసిరీ, 
mahaniyanthalu mattilo kalisiree, 
[great dictators absorbed into the soil] 
మామూలేరా మనమెంతా? 
maamuleraa manamenthaa? 
[common folks, how tough/strong can we be?]

Meaning:

Even great dictators fell and were claimed by this soil. How strong can common folks like us be? Those who thought they are greater than nature and the earth. Ruling great kingdoms, yielding the greatest of powers, where are those dictators now? Realize that we are mortals, are time bound and one day we will be united with this soil.

యుక్తికి ప్రాణము పోసిన, 
yuktiki praanamu posina, 
[to intellect given life (such) ] 
మహాశక్తిగ తానై ఉన్నదీ ప్రకృతి. 
mahashaktiga thaanai unnadee prakruti. 
[a great energy / power is (of) nature]

Meaning:

Mother nature presides over the world as a great energy connecting everything that exists. From nothingness life forms evolved under the guidance and support of nature around us. Over millions of years, we evolved from instinctive to intellectual beings. If you think (human) intellect is infinite and unprecedented then you must realize the power of nature, one who has brought this intellect into existence..

 

 

Combined stanzas, Telugu Language:

పావనమైనదీ జీవన యానం,
పడనీ అడుగులు ఎటురా పయనం. 
మట్టికి మనిషికి సృష్టిలోన,
విడిపోనీ చుట్టరికమున్నది కనుమది.

తడబడు అడుగుల కింద ఉన్నదీ ,
పిడికెడు మట్టే అనుకోకు. 
ఆ మట్టిపైన ఎంతెత్తులకెదిగినా 
నీవే పిడికెడని మరచిపోకు.

మహానియంతలు మట్టిలో కలిసిరీ,
మామూలేరా మనమెంతా?
యుక్తికి ప్రాణము పోసిన 
మహాశక్తిగ తానై ఉన్నదీ ప్రకృతి.

 

YouTube Link to the rendition of the poem by the Author, Mr. Ande Sri, himself.

 

Another link to the poem with no video, just the voice:

We are all just void pointers

“All beings are void pointers returned by the same function just typecasted differently”

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Man, woman and a baby
void *mate(male, female)
{
   if (is_fertilized(egg)) {
     delay_range(8-10 months);
    return offspring;
   } else {
      cleanup(uterus);
      return NULL;
   }
}

int world_everyday()
{
  void *new_life;
  new_life = mate(male, female);
  current_being = (casting_type *) new_life;
}

 

[1] Void pointer – https://www.geeksforgeeks.org/void-pointer-c/

[2] Functions – https://www.webopedia.com/TERM/F/function.html

[3] Typecasting – https://techterms.com/definition/typecasting

“NULL STACK: Stack of items that’s Not so Useful for Living your Life”